Lesbian Vampires for You, Dear Readers

Dying, Sweetly I promised I would never tell this to another living soul.  But Sido has been haunting my dreams for weeks and I cannot keep my secret any longer. I was a schoolgirl when I first saw her; she was walking alone near my school on a luminous evening when everything seemed to come alive in the cool, silvery moonlight.   A mist covered the courtyard, which [...]

Rethinking High Femme, Part 2

Are high femmes queen bees?   If you crown yourself “high femme,” are you implicitly suggesting that others are “low?”  Nikki from give me space (to rock) and, more recently, buddhistfemme have asserted that “high femme” suggests a heirarchical ranking of femme that’s fundamentally elitist.  This may seem like an unavoidable conclusion, particularly in today’s competitive and status-obsessed [...]

Rethinking High Femme, Part 1

A charming and generous friend recently told me–much to my surprise–that she sees my blog as a femme finishing school. I’m flattered, believe me (much love to you, charming and generous friend!), but the more I thought about it the more I realized that femme for me is a nonlinear process in which there’s no [...]

Sneeking a Peek

Sometimes a girl just can’t help herself.

Highbrowed

I’m a little obsessed with eyebrows. So I was delighted to see brows take center stage in reports on upcoming fashion and beauty trends. Focusing on extreme brow looks, the new trend for spring is either The Strong Brow or what I call The Disappeared Brow. The latter look basically “disappears” the brow by bleaching [...]

Getting Romantic

On our honeymoon, my partner created an extravagantly beautiful picnic for me on the beach at sunset. I can still remember how she gave me her jacket because it was chilly, how loved and treasured I felt at that moment, and how I could feel my heart and life open up in ways I had [...]

Sublimefemme in Bed and More

At last…the big reveal! Here are the answers to last week’s 10 Hidden Truths About My Life: Fact or Fiction? 1. I typically sleep in a babydoll nightie with matching g-string/thong/panty or cami with matching thong/panty. FALSE.The key word here is “typically.” Being sublimely femme at bedtime requires a varied sleep wardrobe! I like baby [...]

Sublimefemme Tells All, No. 9

I have a healthy, balanced lifestyle; I just prefer to take it in pill form. DISCLAIMER: Sublimefemme Unbound is designed for entertainment purposes only and is not engaged in rendering medical advice regarding prescription or OTC medications. Sublime Femmeness is not a substitute for professional care.

Long Live Lady Brett Ashley!

Picture me in my chaise lounge, sipping a Manhattan and feeling rather confident that my secrets would be safe from the world. Yes, I had dropped clues here and there regarding some of the issues mentioned in my list, but who could possibly guess which 3 items were the lies? Like a high femme Cruella [...]

Doing It On Purpose

First, a few comments about my uber amazing readers inspired by this week’s dialogue in Butch2Femme and Transitioning to Femme: I nearly feel off my chaise lounge when I read LaurynX’s comment that she just came out as femme in the past few months. Holy mother of god! You, my dear, are going to be [...]