New Year’s Dos and Don’ts

Happy New Year, darlings!   Forget about the resolutions, there are only 3 questions you need to ask yourself on New Year’s Eve:  (1) what to drink  (2) what to wear (3) who to kiss.  What To Drink I had quite a few delicious Manhattans and a fantastic Knob Creek Old-Fashioned over the holidays, but for NYE even I put aside my beloved bourbon for champagne.  [...]

Eartha Kitt: In Memoriam

Holiday Kisses

Kisses to you, my pretties!  I’m going away for the holidays but am blowing you sublime kisses to last throughout the season!  I’ll be back next week to ring in the new year with you.  In the meantime, if you feel adrift without my words of wisdom, remember that the answers to all life’s questions and the key to femme nirvana can be found at  Get Your Femme On! (Holiday Edition).   Happy holidays, [...]

Femme for the Holidays, No. 3

It’s never too early for a cocktail, darling!  That’s me with the cigar, partying with my favorite nice Jewish girls gone bad.   Happy Hanukkah!  

Femme for the Holidays, No. 2

Weekend Tip:  Spend less time shopping and more time lounging in front of the fire in your marabou slippers.   Marshmallows optional!

Femme for the Holidays, No. 1

Is this too trapped-in-a-Fellini movie for the office holiday party tomorrow night? 

Tomboy Femme & Other Multigendered Femmes

Recently, I was checking out of a swanky hotel and requested some help with my luggage.  Much to my surprise, the bellhop who arrived to help me was a beautiful tomboy femme.  When she looked me in the eyes and said “yes ma’am,” I’ll admit I felt a little weak in the knees.   (This is the one time in the history of [...]

Sublimefemme Tells All, No. 14

Never stand between a femme and her destiny, especially in the shoe department.   

Bettie Page: In Memoriam

“I was never the girl next door.” –Bettie Page The iconic pinup girl Bettie Page died yesterday in Los Angeles. I’ve always been captivated by her images–particularly, her rare ability to express both the reassuring, sunny optimism typically associated with the 1950s and the darker, more dangerous currents of sexuality that were becoming increasingly visible during that [...]

In Praise of Fishnets

 ”Hon,” I asked coyly after dinner last night, “what did I wear on our first date?”   Van replied right away, “Fishnets.  A push-up bra.  And a shirt that tied up the front, which I imagined untying all night long.” We periodically play this game.  Our first date was many years ago, and the more time that [...]