Vagina Fairytale

Think every woman has a vagina?  Think again.  Around this time of year the feminist students at my university get very excited about The Vagina Monologues. I want to support my students who are involved with the production, and I appreciate how empowering and important this work is for many of them. I get it. But [...]

Sublimefemme Tells All, No. 18

A femme never hesitates to exercise her right to recline.

Why Are Lesbians So Seductive?

“Why are lesbians so seductive?”  Some inquisitive Sapphic searcher typed this into hir search engine and ended up at my blog.  If you’ve been reading for a while, you already know that I keep an eye on the search engine terms that refer people to me.  Often these search terms are predictable, e.g. “butch femme attraction,” or downright troubling, such [...]

The Butch Fatale

It’s official.  Everyone in the universe is crushing on Rachel Maddow. Lesbianism has finally come into a glamour of its own, an appeal that goes beyond butch and femme archetypes into a more universal seduction. Her name is Rachel Maddow, the polished-looking, self-declared gay newscaster who stares out from the MSNBC studio every weekday night and [...]

A Valentine for You

Thanks to all of you who helped me pick my boudoir attire for VDay.  It was a difficult decision, but here’s what I’m wearing.  When it comes to lingerie, you can’t go wrong with the classics!  Hope you all have a great day (and night ).  xo, SF  

Bedroom Eyes

The smoky eye is the apotheosis of sexiness.  Whether you’re an eyeshadow newbie or the kind of femme who never leaves the house without her eye makeup, you can learn a thing or two from the lovely and (for me, anyway) hypnotic Michelle Phan. My favorite quote from Ms. Phan’s lesson is this:  “Remember for eyeliners, if you extend [...]

Sublimefemme Tells All, No. 17

Never underestimate the power of the perfect dress.

Sex Kittenish Lingerie

Today, Sublimefemme Unbound explores the vexing question that has baffled philosophers throughout the ages:  Who is lingerie for?  The femme wearing it or the person who enjoys seeing her in it?    Van has always been very…enthusiastic about my passion for glamorous underthings.  Today, when I asked her opinion on a few seductive babydolls, bras, and panties that I’m considering purchasing for Feb. 14, she was [...]

Femme=Bottom (And Other Myths)

It’s been a looong day, plus I chipped 2 nails right before I left the office (damn!), so I’m pissed as well as exhausted. Maybe this is the reason I’m seeing red after reading ASK A LESBIAN: “Sleeping with Straight Girls”, which is (sort of) a straight girl’s guide to sleeping with chicks in Q [...]

V-Day (Don’t Be a Hater)

If you’re a part of the Anti-Valentine’s Day movement–people who wear black and only listen to songs about how love sucks–go ahead, snark away at this post. Certainly, those of us who are fans of the holiday are easy targets, not only because the cheese factor is off the charts this time of year, but [...]