High Fashion Androgyny

In her comment on my Tomboy Chic post, angiesyounglover posted a great Studio Show movie  featuring the androgynous Danish model Freja Beha Erichsen.   (Thanks AYL!)  For me, Freja highlights the distinction between being a tomboy and being androgynous.  Like Jenny Shimizu, Freja is so gender flexible that she’s almost post-gender.  And yet, she really does take the risks of identifying with the [...]

Sublime & Van on Vacay

There’s no place like home, but sometimes you just need to pack up and get the hell out!  Van and I have been working really hard lately so we’re leaving town for a much-needed getaway.  Our destination is top secret, but here’s a hint.  If in the next few days you meet a fascinating femme who’s a dead ringer for Charlize Theron and her dapper Rachel Maddow look-a-like [...]

Tomboy Chic: Style and Tomboy Femme

I’ve always adored women in menswear or menswear-inspired clothes.   (How hot does Katherine Hepburn look here?  Enough said!) So of course I was pleased about the buzz for the new “tomboy chic” and the so-called “boyfriend look.” (Note to the fashion industry:  Enough already with this boyfriend crap.  Heterosexism is not cute.)  Check out ”Tomboy Chic” in [...]

Purple Haze

It’s officially spring and time to rejoice in the sublimeness of lavender, my favorite color!   Lucky me because pale violets are totally on trend this season.  If the thought of lavender lip gloss makes you nervous (not me, darlings–I’ve been patiently waiting for the right moment to pull out my MAC Nico lipglass), have no fear.  [...]

Foot Fetish

I finished my big project (on time!!) and am treating myself to a relaxing weekend.  I’ve spent the day sitting around in my PJ’s and lavendar Uggs reading the paper and drinking coffee and I’m now heading to my favorite salon for a spa pedicure.  I’m a pedicure Diva, I admit it.  In her Femme Economics column, Moira said that pedicures don’t seem [...]

Who’s Your Femme Style Icon?

I think the first time I “got” femme was when I saw Elizabeth Taylor as Maggie in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof.   Looking drop-dead gorgeous in her clingy slip, Maggie fights with Brick about their living arrangements and hisses, “I’m not living with you. We occupy the same cage that’s all!”   Me-YOW!   La Liz could [...]

Kiss Me I Heart Ireland

I’m not Irish but when I was a kid I desperately wanted to be.  I’m not sure why (too many Shamrock Shakes?), but maybe it was just because being Irish seemed very different from my own ancestry.  I was so captivated by the beauty and magic of Ireland (or really, my fantasy of what I thought Ireland was) that my family would [...]

Femme Myths

                    Myth #1  Femmes are helpless Myth #2  Femmes aren’t really dykes Myth #3  Femmes are passive Myth #4  Femmes can’t be tomboys (or tomboys can’t be femmes)   What myths about femme and/or lesbian gender do you want to rid the world of?   And hey, [...]

Sublimefemme Tells All, No. 19

Naughty is always better than nice!

Femme Pleasure and Strap-On Sex

I’ve sometimes felt that some butches are rather too… a-hem… narcissistically attached to their strap-ons.   If you can’t fuck without it, get out of my bed.  Don’t get me wrong; I certainly don’t think strap-ons or dildos are heterosexist or antifeminist, and I’m not sitting around worrying that I have internalized heterosexist norms because I like sex with [...]