Summer Vacay

Van and I are leaving for vacation tomorrow!  I’ve bought a fabulous new summery dress and matching shoes, watered the plants, and put up the out of office assistant on my work email, so I’m ready to go.  To be honest, I think “ready”  is a relative term for femmes.  But I promised Van that I [...]

Letting Go

My head is pounding and tears are rolling down my cheeks. ”My heart feels like it’s physically breaking,” Van says.  We’re sitting at our dining room table, forcing ourselves to eat.  Van and I have been through a lot of tough times together, but today she has the saddest eyes I’ve ever seen.  Yesterday we put [...]

Repost: Love Story

As many of you already know, my Van is a private person so I try not to put her and our life center stage in my blog.  But since Valentine’s Day is coming up–which I love as only a femme can; V-Day haters step away now!–I don’t think Van will mind me telling you a little [...]

Femme at the Grill

Don’t try this at home, darlings.  I really am roasting a whole chicken on the grill tonight, but I will not be topless!

Sublimefemme Tells All, No. 30

Sublimefemme has contracted a terrible case of gay fatigue and has taken to her bed, where she’s sipping herbal tea and getting some much-needed rest and relaxation thanks to various mother’s little helpers. PS  I lied about the herbal tea but the gay fatigue, I swear, is totally real.  It’s positively exhausting being as gay [...]

Mow My Lawn, Please!

Would someone come over to my house and mow my lawn for me, pretty please?!   Van has been called away on a family emergency and the front lawn is getting a little…bushy.   The problem is, I’ve never even touched a lawn mower, much less cut grass.  I’ll admit, I’m pretty good at “trimming the [...]

All Ears

I know you’re all ears to hear about Van’s much-anticipated birthday gift so here’s the scoop…  I planned a special day at home to celebrate (which was a hit), but this is her main present:   an aerial tour of the Grand Canyon!  Usually Van does outdoorsy stuff without me but I’ll be joining her [...]

Happy B’day Van!

I’m not a fan of aging, although I concede it’s better than the alternative.  I subscribe to Lucille Ball’s philosophy, “The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age.”  Actually, come to think of it, living honestly is vastly overrated. Unlike me, Van has always embraced her age. [...]

Fierce Femininity

Happy birthday, Janis.  If you’ve been reading for a while you may already know about my abiding appreciation and affection for Janis Joplin.  If you’re new to SF Unbound, surprise!  Don’t let the pin-up girls fool you, kids.  I’m all about kicking down the white picket fences around femme.  God knows I’m trying! Lots of [...]

A Look Under the Hood

I’m not quite sure why, but the blond coldness and mechanical beauty of this image really speaks to me right now.  That, and I really like the shoes.