Lindsay, Sam and My Gay Happily Ever After

First, the gossip, in case you haven’t already heard. It’s official; Lindsay Lohan has come out about her relationship with girlfriend Samantha Ronson!

First, there’s Exhibit A, an interview in the upcoming October issue of Marie Claire, in which La Lohan talks frankly about Ronson and rehab. And more significantly, there’s Exhibit B, the recent interview on the radio show “Loveline.” (It’s on YouTube if you want to listen.) Sam called in to talk about the plane crash involving friends DJ-AM and Travis Barker. The host, Stryker, who referred to Linsday as Sam’s “ladyfriend,” also had an opportunity to speak with Linsay, who jumped on the call after Sam.

Stryker asked Lindsay how long she and Sam have been dating, and Lindsay responded “a very long time.” After congratulating her, Stryker went on to say, “I hope you guys stay together. You’re a very lovely looking couple.” Lindsay’s retort? A ladylike “thank you very much.”

“I hope you guys stay together”–????

Stryker seems like a good guy and I think his interview was, overall, very gay positive, but I just have to register my dismay at this one particular comment, which subtly implies that they might break up or could break up–otherwise, why would he say “I hope you guys stay together?” Maybe he would have said this to a straight celebrity couple, but I doubt it. I think we all know that Sam and Lindsay *have* indeed been together for quite some time, which makes the comment that much more puzzling.

It might seem like I’m being hypercritical here, especially when Stryker so clearly intended to be supportive to Lindsay and Sam. But his comment, however well-meaning, does reflect cultural stereotypes about how gay/lesbian/queer relationships are often viewed as inevitably short-term. Those promiscuous gays and their “alternative lifestyles!” It’s not easy for LGBTQ people to settle down and lively happily ever like our straight friends (not thay they do, but that’s another issue!). Actually, one of the great things about the media coverage of Ellen Degenerous and Portia de Rossi’s wedding is that it seemed refreshingly free of such insinuations/stereotypes.

This is an issue that I’m somewhat sensitive about, I admit. Over the years, I’ve seen the jaws of straights and queers alike drop when I tell them how long I’ve been with my partner. I remember one progressive straight friend actually marveling at the fact that my relationship has lasted longer than *any* of his marriages!!

There is such a thing as a gay happily after. I’m lucky enough to be living it.

5 Responses

  1. first, yay for happy gossip =)

    second, to the point. it’s quite possible you’re right, but i’d like to suggest the alternative that it is an age issue. sexuality aside, people are a bit jaded to the idea that anyone would stay with the person she’s dating at 20 (or whatever they are). that is, maybe it’s a “promiscuous kids” issue =)

    Another more generous reading of the Stryker’s comment is that he knows they’ll face unique pressures and scrutiny as a visibly “out” couple, and is acknowledging that this would be a strain on anyone’s relationship. Especially those young promiscuous kids!! Thx, Lady B. xo -Sf

  2. they look nice together, good luck

  3. It’s about time…! Question is, will they get more or less attention from the mainstream press now?

    This is a fascinating question. What do you think? Thanks for traveling all the way from the UK to comment. You’re lesbilicous! -Sf

  4. I love that they did it. It’s cute.

    Perhaps learning of the plane crash as a couple hit one or both of them pretty hard, and the result is this sort of public and cliched albeit genuine now-or-never kind of feeling. Sort of the proverbial straw that broke the lezzie’s back!

    Dude probs meant it in the context of slutty, incestuous Hollywood younguns, but you’ve still got a point!

  5. I think he was actually referring to La Lohan’s checkered dating past and her status as an all-around hot mess, rather than making any sweeping generalizations about the impermanance of gay relationships.

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