I’m always interested in how readers find me. There are those wonderful people who actually are googling “sublime femme” (kisses to you!), but except for them, people seem to arrive at my blog by a familiar set of search terms such as: “what does a lipstick lesbian look like;” “difference between lipstick lesbian and femme;” and “lindsay lohan and samantha ronson.” (Yes, I know; it’s my fault for ever writing about them.)
I often wonder who these googlers are and what drives their desire to know about “stone femme” or “lipstick butch” (those 2 are from today, actually). When I see “don’t understand the butch femme attraction” in my list of search engine terms, I genuinely hope that person left my blog feeling a little more enlightened than when s/he arrived.
I must admit, I do have an all-time favorite googler: “lesbianism to a point of i want to look.” This is my letter to you, my voyeuristic friend.
Dear I Want to Look,
Your googling has caused me more than a few sleepless nights. I would be more than happy to answer any and all of your lesbo-related queries if you would just tell me one thing: what exactly do you want to look at? This does seem to be the heart of the matter.
But maybe you’re concerned about another kind of lesbian look–wanting to look like a lesbian. Just to fill you in, dear darling girl, we all look the same. We’re extremely glamorous and bear a striking resemblance to Angelina Jolie. But at nights and on weekends, we look like Rachel Maddow. If this is what you look like, you’re totally gay.
It may be time to ask yourself if you’re ready to take the plunge and become a lesbian. There are a lot of very reputable and trustworthy tests on the internet to help you make this decision. Also, you might be interested in reading my manual, Given Up on Men? Come Over to the Sapphic Side.
My nocturnal ruminations about your plight have led me to one conclusion: Sure, sometimes looking is lesbian, but frankly who doesn’t want to look? Case in point: this classic photo of Sophia Loren and Jayne Mansfield from my post “Sneaking a Peek.” So my humble advice is this: Go ahead, look. Live a little!