Why are lesbians so self-righteous in their political correctness? Why is it that garden-variety lesbians can have such a difficult time seeing the complexity of my gender or the gender of my (butch) partner? Honestly, I’m tired of it. Today a twenty-something dyke told me that “younger lesbians” aren’t into butch/femme because it reproduces heterosexist roles. Hardly a new critique, of course. We’ve all heard it a million times before. But there was something about the way she made this sweeping generalization that made me feel angered, alienated, and old–all at once! Thank you! (The funny thing is, I actually like the person who said this to me….) Here’s what I wish lesbians could remember: all of us internalize dominant sex/gender norms. Political correctness does not inoculate you from heteronormativity.
There’s more I could say about all of this, but I have to go cook dinner and do my nails. 😉