To the wonderful femmes named, you have no idea how much I appreciate your encouraging comments on my last post, “Social Justice and Cute Shoes.” It’s so fantastic for me to be able to convey the diversity and complexity of my interests and commitments–to convey all of who I am–and discover, much to my delight, that these are interests, concerns, and commitments that I share with so many of you.
There’s something else all of you probably have no idea about–how often I come up with an idea for a post or am in the middle of writing up an idea and think to myself, “This one will never fly. It’s too theoretical, or it’s too serious, or…” The other day, I thought to myself that I wouldn’t get much of a response to my Martin Luther King/social justice post, because–good god–I’m talking about racism, imperialism and economic inequality! Does anyone really come to Sublimefemme Unbound for that?!
I wish I could name everyone who’s been commenting lately because I so value all of your thoughts and feedback. Recently, after I wrote “When Femme Fails,” I remember sitting on the couch and and saying to Van: “It’s amazing. The posts I worry are too theoretical and gendertheorish are precisely the ones that people respond to!” It happens over and over again but I’m still surprised. It’s more than your appetite for femme theory that delights me, though; what I really appreciate is that you’re willing to go to places even I had never expected to travel to in this blog. For example, a few weeks ago when I wrote “Janis: Undoing Femme,” I thought to myself that there wouldn’t be any interest in the post because (1) it’s about Janis Joplin for god’s sake! (2) it’s about the unpretty side of femme–not airbrushed pin-up girls but femmes who are raw, wild, funky and flawed. After all, what’s sublimely femme about that?” But I wrote the post anyway, like I always do, because what’s the point of blogging if you aren’t being authentic? And then, go figure, you guys responded to the whole badass femme thing. You got it, like you always do.
I love the fact that I can stretch the limits of what we think femme is, and you’re right there with me. I love that I can write as a femme and a radical about racism, and social inequalities and you write back about your own investment in social change. I love that this is a space where I can be brainy and beautiful, serious and frivolous–or, as I put it in my last post, equally committed to social justice and cute shoes.
I wish I could have you all over for drinks and toast each and every one of you. Especially since LaurynX will be 21 soon! 😉