Femme Bibliography Project

I just discovered The Femme Bibliography Project, a well-researched list of academic and community-minded readings on queer femininities and femme sexuality/gender from the 90s to the present. Updated versions to follow.

Repost: Against Femme Privilege

There’s been good discussion over at A Brown Girl on the question of femme invisibility and femme privilege, prompted by ABG’s reposting of Nikki’s thoughtful piece on that issue.   I’m a big fan of Nikki and her blog, give me space (to rock), but I think the concept of “femme privilege” doesn’t actually capture the experience of living as [...]

Never Been a Bad Girl

Whether you’re nice or naughty, you’re going to like Sabrina Chap’s new video! From The Queerist: In a world of flash-in-the-pan acts and pop music saturation, it’s a joy to discover Sabrina Chap, a deeply talented musician who’s well grounded in songwriting and grand performanceship . When her songwriting career collided with a discovery of [...]

“Puh-leeeze don’t like me!”

Inspiration from the world of Miss Grace Jones…. “I do what I want and I’m satisfied with it, whether or not it pleases everybody….  Actually, there are certain people I definitely don’t want to please.  There are some people I’m like ‘Oh no, puh-leeeze don’t like me!’” “If you’re out there you’re vulnerable. People prefer [...]

Love Story

As many of you already know, my Van is a private person so I try not to put her and our life center stage in my blog.  But since Valentine’s Day is coming up–which I love as only a femme can; V-Day haters step away now!–I don’t think Van will mind me telling you a little [...]

Tarted Up

I’ve been spending a lot of time in the kitchen lately.  No kidding; I’m a regular domestic goddess, I swear!  I even took time off from grading final exams to make beautiful vegetable tarts for dinner last night.  A femme should seize every opportunity to tart it up, don’t you think?

Get Your Femme On! (Holiday Edition)

Yes, my lovelies, the holiday season is upon us. Van and I just got our xmas tree today (Van’s all about the tree), so it’s officially time for SF’s holiday how- to.  I don’t think I can top last year’s guide and really, why mess with a good thing, right?  Enjoy! Getting Your Femme On for the Holidays [...]

Why Do Femme?

This is my response to Making Space’s recent post on femme and femininity.  You can read her whole post here. It just never ever ever in a million gazillion years would EVER occur to me that ANY woman EVER EVER EVER EVER (have I emphasized this enough?) would voluntarily paint her nails or wear makeup every day. So [...]

A Sublime Blogiversary

Hello darlings, I’m back from my vacay just in time for my one-year blogiversary!   Van and I had a great time on our cruise and also enjoyed ourselves at the gorgeous Mayfair Hotel in Miami, which was wonderful despite the heat.   Just how much fun did we have?  On the cruise I discovered that minibar bottles of Absolut are an excellent remedy for puffy eyes.  Chilled bottles should be [...]

On Your Knees! It’s Miss Grace Jones

Who else could pull off gold eyebrows with so much ferocity but the incomparable Grace Jones?  I know, I know.  She scares you, right?  Frankly, I hope so.  While I have not been blessed with Miss Jones’s gift for provocation, l have nothing but admiration for her willingness to embody extremity of all kinds.  To me, her sculptural [...]